Abnormal child, the mother learns how to “calm”

Another mother, Ms. P. – participant in a group of autistic-child mothers – shared about abnormal symptoms in her child’s behaviors: it was 17-18 months, but her son didn’t look at mother’s face, always woke up at midnight and cried until morning.

“He didn’t know to point, went on tiptoes, run in a circle, and enjoyed playing alone” – Ms. P. said. A dialog in an offline meeting with other moms made her touch many times. She cannot forget the days she began as a mother because of many traumas from taking care of an autistic infant. It was terrible. “There were many times I wanted to die with him”, but at that moment, I was “startled”, told myself to overcome it with my child.

To her, “if that is what I have to deal with, then avoid with anyways; even death will make everything worse”. Moreover, she could not harm her son just because of her weakness. Quit the job was one of her hard decisions, but she couldn’t leave her son. Start the “battle” with autism, companion with her son, according to her patience.

Step by step, taking her son to exercises, accept other’s eyes, sometimes getting all the unpleasant words, lead the child to integrate with society. More than seven years later, her son is growing up. Now, he knows how to be independent in some simple things, can speak, think, and feel, although he doesn’t like other normal children. “But that is a proud achievement of us” – Ms. P. identifies.

Ms. H.’s son is overcome a hard time with strange behaviors, which made others scared and wary. “He knew how to care about me. Now, with my guidance and supervision, he can study in a normal school like other children” – she shares

To do that, she has to endure and learns how to be peaceful, calm down since she knows her son is autistic. Intensely no anger, loving instead. Consistent to lead the child, step by step even the change is not apparent. After all, she said, “I enormously thank my son for making me stronger”.

Recognize autistic children

Nowadays, there is much information about the early signs for children with autism or what families should do when they find an autistic child. It’s not too hard to access formally and scientifically. On the other hand, there’re still many cases that autistic children being detected too late, or parents do not fully understand the issues involved.

Regarding the signs of identifying autistic children, according to teacher Huynh Kim Tu, the most obvious one is eye contact and communication. Children do not look others in the eye when talking, playing, not communicating with others, or playing alone without the help of others.

Noting for parents supporting the child integrate, Teacher Kim Tu suggests parents take children to the Children Hospital for screen and evaluation, then provide an intervention for the child. In some ways, “the most important is accept and companion with the child.”.

As a model, the result of Ms. P. and Ms. H. with their son realistically answer the question, “does family’s determination change the fate of a child?”.

Source:  https://tuoitre.vn/cha-me-cung-con-vuot-qua-tu-ky-20210424221840021.htm